“It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.” -Byron Katie
Did you ever have one of those teaching opportunities with your kids (or students, or someone who looks up to you) where they say something off the cuff and you know you have to jump in there with a life lesson, that rare moment when you realize you really do know more than someone else and have the chance to impart some wisdom?
Like when your kid who is now in Grade 3 tells you about a girl she hates from her Grade 1 class and says the reason she hates her is because this girl accused her of being more than just friends with a boy they both know. The only thing more disturbing than her use of the word ‘hate’ is that she’s been carrying this feeling around for two years!
Your first impulse might be to scold her for using strong language or to say ‘stop being so sensitive’. But the real answer, as the quote above maintains, is promoting self-love. It does hurt when someone doesn’t believe you or lies to you, but you have to know that having the truth inside yourself is enough. That is self-love. Understanding and accepting that life is sometimes unfair but you won’t let how you feel be dictated by external circumstances. That is self-love.
You can’t control what other people say or do. You can control whether or not you let it affect the way you feel about yourself.
And you can forgive them for not being perfect.
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